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Relationship Talk I like porn & masturbation; is that why guys aren’t interested in me?

I really need help on how to stop doing that so as to get the man of my dreams.

Dear Bukky,
I’m 39 and stay in Enugu state, my problem is that I am a chronic masturbator and also addicted to porn.
I’ve tried every possible means to stop but to no avail. This issue has cost me a lot as I cannot keep any guy because I don’t develop feelings for them.
Presently there’s no guy on board.
Please I need your help and also advise me on how to improve myself so as to become attractive to my dream guy.
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Dear reader,
If you are trying to stop your addiction to pornography and masturbation, it’s going to take your decision and not much else.
There really isn’t any way anyone can help you if you are not actively going to avoid those things and refuse to act on the impulse to go back to viewing those clips.
Your chances of indulging are doubled when you watch or pay extended attention to things that trigger the urge to masturbate, so stay away from them.
When you accidentally come in contact with any one of them, turn away from it as quickly as possible.
This is not the solution to the problem, it’s just going to contribute to the solution. The less porn you watch now, the better. But don’t forget that the biggest restraint you need right now is in your mind.
I don’t know if there’s a link between not getting a man and masturbating. All of that might just be in your head.
If you are not feeling attached to anyone, it might be because they are not good enough, or that you have not met the right person yet. It could also be because you are just not ready.
And on how to improve yourself, I think you need to start by going through with this plan to stop pornography and masturbation. It’s something you wish to do, so do everything necessary to stop, no matter how difficult.
Think of it as one of your self-development projects. You’ll be happy if you succeed at it and disappointed if you don’t so make yourself proud.
You know what your dream guy looks and acts like, right? Now think of what such guy would like and be that person.
The desired type of attraction will come that way.
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